I moved two of the blogs in my blogroll to the PG after IF category today and was so very happy to do it. It gives me the sense that someone is winning the war against infertility. And that's how I approach infertility- as an enemy to fight against. And even if I don't win, I want someone to prevail against our common foe.
The weapons of the infertile: the all-too familiar stirrups, the dildocam (of course), superovulatory drugs (bring on the Clomid and the needles), the ever-enlarging speculum, the catheters, the blood tests, the list could go on and on. Oh, don't forget the ubiquitous cup for our male friends. Although we have our outward offensive weapons, our defenses must not be neglected. We put on the armor of ambivalence to buffer against disappointment; we use a shield of sarcasm to assuage the despair that comes from another birthday or anniversary or holiday that passes; and, we helmet ourselves with more and more information that informs us, but still does not solve our infertility.
Battle on, friends!
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Very well put!
I am so right there with ya! It is not often these days that I get to feel truly happy about someone ELSE getting pregnant - but for both of them I really am. It feels good to know that bitterness hasn't spoiled me all the way to the core!
Inspiring !! very well versed!! Battle On, My Friend ... Battle onward
I find that fellow infertiles are the only people I can be truly happy for when it comes to news of pregnancy. Does that make me a bitch?
xoxoxo to you.
gumby, that doesn't make you a bitch - that makes you a human. i feel the same way.
Don't forget the crazy amount of lube that goes on the supersized speculum!
J
Amen! From a comrade in arms.
You are so sweet. I still don't feel confident I will stay on "that side" but still hoping.
I hope you'll be joining us real soon. XOXO
Battle on, my fellow IFers!
I loved this post. I particularly related to the stuff about ambivalence and sarcasm. I notice these qualities often unnerve my fertile friends and relatives, but sometimes I feel like it's all that's getting me through this. That and an incredibly twisted sense of humor.
Hear hear!
*sigh*
totally! us IFs have to stick together. it is so much sweeter when one of us gets a BFP. doesn't make us bitches though; the fertiles don't need us rooting for them. they will get knocked up without any of our support. :-)
now we need a good battle cry a la Braveheart. ;-)
Here, Here!
--Trish
P.S. You've been tagged!
I agree 100%! The people who understand this best are going through the struggle now or just recently overcame it. I also find that a sense of humor can help keep yourself sane through all of the nonsense. Battle on!
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