My MIL whom I usually adore calls me at work to tell me how she was discussing with "the girls in jazzercise" (she goes 6 days a week, mind you the girls are in their 50s and 60s) about how we are considering adopting from Russia. One of the girls told her how "all" of the children have fetal alcohol syndrome and "they" will lie to you about the children's medical conditions and you will end up paying tens of thousands of dollars in bribes at the last minute. And she had the name and number of the director of infertility and adoption in Missouri and was going to call her and let her know I would get in touch with her. Ugh!!!!!!
So, I tried to explain that the Russian adoption system is greatly improved nowadays and that we were going to try ivf first. And then she didn't know what that was and I had to give a biology lesson. And for heaven's sake, I AM AT WORK!!!!
And just love how she is discussing our infertility with all the damn girls at jazzercise.
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*sigh*
I can so relate. My relationship with my mother is a shambles and the rare occasions I do talk to her she all kinds of wisdom about my IF... widsom that usually requires me to give a biology lesson to refute. If you really want to talk about the nitty gritty of my IF then at least educate yourself (and don't believe everything the biddies at church tell you)!
Argh. That is why I am still in the closet. I just couldn't take these types of comments.
I hate when people who don't know what they're talking about get all in our business.
I'm very sorry to hear that. I've also had my MIL having adoption agencies send material to us, without being asked. Even if people "mean well", there are some things you need to do on your own.
WHAT, are you freakin SERIOUS?!?!?! WOW, yah seeth away
i understand COMPLETELY how utterly annoying and intrusive and presumptive this feels. and as for her "friend's" comment it's like yes, while there are instances of FAS/FES from russia, and it does NOT mean that those children are unworthy of our love. i mean, people choose to adopt special needs kids all of the time. WTF? on the flip side, it is not like there aren't (unfortunately) thousands and thousands of healthy children from russia and elsewhere waiting for their families. ARGH!
my own mother pulled something similar this week of all weeks. she called me less than 2 hours after hearing about my miscarriage to tell me that she spoke with a friend of hers whose daughter had multiple miscarriages after IVF and told me all of the testing she went through, etc. wow, yeah, thanks for sharing the most private information with anyone you want to without my permission.
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