about this article regarding the "return" of an adopted child. It just makes adoption more difficult. What is wrong with people?
ETA- Gumby and Malloryn have it right in their description of how this can harm international adoption. It also affects public perception, especially of people like my MIL, who are misinformed to think that all babies from international orphanages are going to have "problems."
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I can't even believe that. It's not very nice to wish bad things on people, but really!
That is ridiculous. I would say that those parents weren't good parents.
That is beyond ridiculous. I've consulted on several cases of reactive attachment disorder since it presents similar to autism and the last thing that would be good for this girl is to remove her from the only home she knows.
My heart goes out to that little girl...I'll take her!
WOW - That is just so embarrassing on so many levels. SERIOUSLY! I'm speechless and shocked - how irresponsible and awful
I read that article as well. Words can't express how I feel about it. They already have two biological children, adopt this little girl, and then completely abandon her. :(
Truthfully, I am not sure I follow.
Obviously, the family "returning" their child has behaved abhorently.
But I thought the article covered the story as well as some of the issues involved pretty well, considering its (short) length.
How does this make adoption more difficult?
From what I can gather, the couple adopted after not succeeding in conceiving (or bearing?) a child, then after adopting did go on to have two children. So...yuck, yuck, yuck. But would the world really be a better place if we pretended such things never happen? Shouldn't prospective adoptive parents -- such as yourself, and myself -- be aware of, and consider, such possible scenarios?
My thinking on how this makes adoption more difficult is that it just gives countries a reason to shut down international adoption thus eliminating one more option for couples who need all the options they can get.
As the wife, daughter, and sister of adoptees I am completely appalled that this type of thing is allowed to happen. It's hard enough growing up feeling you're different and don't quite fit because you have no biological ties to anyone in your family, but to be totally rejected by the people who were supposed to be your parents, who were supposed to love you no matter what!?
So, if I end up having a child that has psychological issues or is maybe mentally retarded and I don't feel I can handle it, then I can just return the kid to the hospital in which he was born? Somehow I don't think that would fly...
I am a political scientist and not a therapist, but we are supposed to believe that the child's detachment came from being adopted!! The child was 4 months old. I would imagine that happens to adopted children if they remember their lives before the adoption. I can't help but to believe that the adopted parents were the primary cause of her emotional problems!!! It's sickening, really.
Alexandra,
The problem is that there are already ongoing debates in South Korea regarding international adoption, and there is a good deal of pressure to severely curtail it or cease it altogether. This case could push them into making a decision that would not favour potential adoptive parents.
Aha, got it, thanks, folks. I was thinking this meant it was more difficult for prospective adoptive parents (in terms of our own perceptions, etc.).
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