We told DH's parents last Wednesday night about the IF and they were very supportive, but I get the feeling they don't want to talk about it much. MIL did ask a few questions which led DH to explain that the problem was predominantly low sperm count, to which MIL replied, "Just like your dad." Particularly ironic since DH is adopted.
Anyhow, they don't seem to understand how much more difficult adoption is now compared to when they adopted in the '70's. They offered to help us out financially, which was particularly nice, but they have given us so much that I would hate to have to ask them for money.
I know they will love our child, whether it is biological or not. I only wish my parents felt the same way.
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
Wednesday, August 15, 2007
More waiting
So, I should be getting my period any minute now. I already have spotting and according to my temp this morning, I am dead.
Because we have to go to genetic counseling on the 29th and because we will be traveling, no IUI again this month. Hopefully, next month's baseline will show that the cyst has resolved itself and we can try IUI. Oh goodie, shots.
Apparently, we are telling DH's parents about the infertility tonight. Well, I don't know if he is intending on calling it "infertility" but rather that "we are having difficulty conceiving a child." I kind of feel like I am beyond the "difficulty" stage. I don't know. Mostly, I just want to sit in a ball by myself and eat chocolate.
Because we have to go to genetic counseling on the 29th and because we will be traveling, no IUI again this month. Hopefully, next month's baseline will show that the cyst has resolved itself and we can try IUI. Oh goodie, shots.
Apparently, we are telling DH's parents about the infertility tonight. Well, I don't know if he is intending on calling it "infertility" but rather that "we are having difficulty conceiving a child." I kind of feel like I am beyond the "difficulty" stage. I don't know. Mostly, I just want to sit in a ball by myself and eat chocolate.
Thursday, August 9, 2007
From Oprah's messages boards
MESSAGE FOR THE FERTILE WORLD.
Posted by: jwsjuls1
Posted on: 08/09/2007 at 12:35am (637 of 650)
Infertility is like this. YOUR CHILD IS KIDNAPPED. THE RANSOM IS A MILLION DOLLARS. YOU HAVE TEN YEARS TO COME UP WITH THE MONEY AND THERE IS NO GARENTEE YOUR CHILD WILL BE ALIVE.
YOU TELL EVERYONE YOU KNOW IN A DESPERATE ATTEMPT TO GET THE MONEY.
INSTEAD OF UNDERSTANDING AND HELP FINANCIALLY, PEOPLE SAY 'JUST ADOPT,THERE ARE ALOT OF CHILDREN WHO NEED HOMES', OR 'RELAX' OR 'GO ON VACATION' OR 'MAYBE IT IS GODS PLAN' OR 'GET OVER IT'.
ARE YOU ANGRY?, HURT?,DEVISTATED?. DO YOU THINK 'HOW CAN THEY BE SO CRUEL? DON'T THEY UNDERSTAND? THIS IS MY CHILD.'?
YOU CAN IMAGIN THE REST OF THE STRUGGLES FOR THE NEXT TEN YEARS.
QUESTION FOR THE FERTILE WORLD. WOULD YOU DO ANYTHING TO SAVE YOUR CHILD? OR WOULD YOU JUST GO AND ADOPT? JULIE
Posted by: jwsjuls1
Posted on: 08/09/2007 at 12:35am (637 of 650)
Infertility is like this. YOUR CHILD IS KIDNAPPED. THE RANSOM IS A MILLION DOLLARS. YOU HAVE TEN YEARS TO COME UP WITH THE MONEY AND THERE IS NO GARENTEE YOUR CHILD WILL BE ALIVE.
YOU TELL EVERYONE YOU KNOW IN A DESPERATE ATTEMPT TO GET THE MONEY.
INSTEAD OF UNDERSTANDING AND HELP FINANCIALLY, PEOPLE SAY 'JUST ADOPT,THERE ARE ALOT OF CHILDREN WHO NEED HOMES', OR 'RELAX' OR 'GO ON VACATION' OR 'MAYBE IT IS GODS PLAN' OR 'GET OVER IT'.
ARE YOU ANGRY?, HURT?,DEVISTATED?. DO YOU THINK 'HOW CAN THEY BE SO CRUEL? DON'T THEY UNDERSTAND? THIS IS MY CHILD.'?
YOU CAN IMAGIN THE REST OF THE STRUGGLES FOR THE NEXT TEN YEARS.
QUESTION FOR THE FERTILE WORLD. WOULD YOU DO ANYTHING TO SAVE YOUR CHILD? OR WOULD YOU JUST GO AND ADOPT? JULIE
Wednesday, August 8, 2007
Maybe I should play the lottery today?
MORE good news! It must be my day!
DH went back to the urologist to discuss his pre and post Clomid hormone levels. Both his FSH and testosterone increased significantly. After only two weeks of using it!
He will go in for another s/a in early September to see if the count has increased as well.
DH went back to the urologist to discuss his pre and post Clomid hormone levels. Both his FSH and testosterone increased significantly. After only two weeks of using it!
He will go in for another s/a in early September to see if the count has increased as well.
A tiny ray of light
Finally some good news! DH tested negative for cystic fibrosis.
The doctor still wants me to see the genetic counselor before I start an IUI cycle, but at least we have a shot now.
I guess I had pretty much convinced myself that DH was a carrier and we were not going to be able to even pursue the IUIs. I really needed some positive news to give me even a litle jolt of hope. I think that the hardest part of infertility is the hopelessness, the feeling of why bother.
The doctor still wants me to see the genetic counselor before I start an IUI cycle, but at least we have a shot now.
I guess I had pretty much convinced myself that DH was a carrier and we were not going to be able to even pursue the IUIs. I really needed some positive news to give me even a litle jolt of hope. I think that the hardest part of infertility is the hopelessness, the feeling of why bother.
Sunday, August 5, 2007
Doing everything we can
which is nothing right now.
I had a discussion with DH this morning about how frustrated I am that I can't even DO anything to move this process forward. Because of the cyst, I am out this cycle and because of traveling, even if I did get my period late, we probably won't start until the cycle after this one.
He seems unperturbed by it all because we "are doing everything we can." I don't want to be doing everything we can when it is nothing.
and I can't believe it's August and summer is almost over and still no baby or hope of one. It's going to kill me to go through another Christmas infertile.
I had a discussion with DH this morning about how frustrated I am that I can't even DO anything to move this process forward. Because of the cyst, I am out this cycle and because of traveling, even if I did get my period late, we probably won't start until the cycle after this one.
He seems unperturbed by it all because we "are doing everything we can." I don't want to be doing everything we can when it is nothing.
and I can't believe it's August and summer is almost over and still no baby or hope of one. It's going to kill me to go through another Christmas infertile.
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
It just keeps getting worse . . .
I just got a call from the nurse at the RE's. My cystic fibrosis screening came back positive, so I am a carrier. Now DH will need to go in and be tested. Either way we have to have genetic counseling.
Unless DH is a carrier, it is only an infintesimal chance that a child would have it. If he is a carrier, there would be a 25% chance of a child having CF. I will need to tell my family esp my sisters b/c they might be carriers too. Although the genetic counselor will tell us more specifically who we should notify, I think I would rather tell them in person, so I guess that's what we will be doing this trip.
I know this isn't a definite thing esp b/c we don't know abt DH, but I just feel like we can't get a break. I just want to be like normal people who go off the pill and in a few months get pg and have a baby and everything is hunky-dory.
Unless DH is a carrier, it is only an infintesimal chance that a child would have it. If he is a carrier, there would be a 25% chance of a child having CF. I will need to tell my family esp my sisters b/c they might be carriers too. Although the genetic counselor will tell us more specifically who we should notify, I think I would rather tell them in person, so I guess that's what we will be doing this trip.
I know this isn't a definite thing esp b/c we don't know abt DH, but I just feel like we can't get a break. I just want to be like normal people who go off the pill and in a few months get pg and have a baby and everything is hunky-dory.
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